Could Questions Be The Answer?

by Ron Haynes

questionJust a short post today (shorter than normal anyway). I’ve been thinking about how the simple act of asking a few questions can build friendships, strengthen bonds, and keep you out of trouble. You’ll find out more by asking questions than by almost any other way. Here are some ideas for questions to ask different people in your life:

Your potential spouse (financial questions):

  • Do you have any debt?
  • Do you use credit cards?
  • Do you live by a budget?
  • What are your long term and short term financial goals?
  • Are you regularly saving money right now?
  • Do you have any investments?
  • Who will handle paying the bills?
  • Will we merge our finances?
  • Do you give?

Your potential financial advisor:

  • How are you paid?
  • How much experience do you have?
  • Who in your firm will also work on my portfolio?
  • What training have you received?
  • How will I get updates to my account?
  • Have you ever been disciplined?
  • Will you provide me a written agreement?
  • Do you have any other clients similar to me?

Your real estate agent when you’re buying a home:

  • How much did the seller pay?
  • How long has the home been on the market?
  • How many offers has the seller received?
  • What have other homes been selling for in this market?
  • Is the seller upside down?
  • Has the home experienced any problems?
  • How are the schools systems?
  • Why is the seller selling?

Yourself before making a big purchase:

  • Do I really need this?
  • Have I done enough research?
  • Are there coupon codes available on the Internet?
  • Could I buy this used and save money?
  • Will I have to use credit to make this purchase?
  • Will this purchase fit within my budget?

On a first date:

  • What books have you read recently that you enjoyed?
  • Do you enjoy travel? Where have you been?
  • What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
  • Do you have any pets?
  • What is your most prized possession and why?
  • What is your passion?
  • If you could live anywhere, where would that be and why?
  • If you won the lottery, how would you spend it?

Before you sign a contract:

  • What is the contract’s termination policy?
  • What is expected of me and when?
  • What do I receive in return?
  • What if I’m not satisfied with how things are going?
  • What guarantees are there?
  • How is payment made or received?
  • How long have you been in business?

On an interview:

  • Tell me about the exact nature of the job, who this position reports to, the responsibilities of the position, and the desired results.
  • Tell me about the boss’ style of management.
  • What is essential for success in this position?
  • What in my background makes you think I’d be a good fit for this position?
  • What makes a good employee in this position?
  • What characteristics to you admire in your boss?
  • Why is the position open?
  • Why is this a great job?
  • What growth is projected for the future regarding the company or the position?

Your kids:

  • If you were stranded on a deserted island, who would you want to bring with you?
  • What one thing would you want to bring with you?
  • If you could only have one dessert for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  • Who is your favorite superhero and why?
  • If you could cook one thing for me, what would it be?
  • Who is your best friend and why?
  • Who do you admire most at school and why?

Your spouse (after you’re married):

  • What can I do for you today?
  • What can I do to make you feel more loved/respected?
  • What goals should we attempt as a couple?
  • What can I do to make you feel more secure?
  • What can I help you work on personally to achieve more?

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About the author

Ron Haynes has written 988 articles on The Wisdom Journal.

The founder and editor of The Wisdom Journal in 2007, Ron has worked in banking, distribution, retail, and upper management for companies ranging in size from small startups to multi-billion dollar corporations. He graduated Suma Cum Laude from a top MBA program and currently is a Human Resources and Management consultant, helping companies know how employees will behave in varying situations and what motivates them to action, assisting firms in identifying top talent, and coaching managers and employees on how to better communicate and make the workplace MUCH more enjoyable. If you'd like help in these areas, contact Ron using the contact form at the top of this page or at 870-761-7881.