My Identity Was Stolen!

by Ron Haynes

September 23, 2004. That was the day I discovered that someone had stolen my identity. ┬áSeveral nights earlier, we had come home and discovered a message on our answering machine from American Express, asking me to call to discuss my outstanding balance. After a little chuckle, I told my wife they must have loaded the wrong phone number into their automatic dialer because we didn’t have an American Express card. “Don’t worry about it,” I said. I never suspected I was the victim of identity theft.

A few nights later, we had yet another message from them and my wife started getting suspicious. I was out of town the next day when she called me and asked if I was sitting down.

She had called American Express to let them know we didn’t have an American Express card but they wouldn’t talk to her since she wasn’t on the account. She did get the person on the line to tell her the account address, though. When she told me the address, I knew immediately who it was: an estranged family member who had knowledge of my Social Security number and birth date. As kids we had noticed that our Social Security numbers were very similar and I suppose this person had always remembered it. My identity had been stolen.

I had no idea what to do. I called American Express and told them what I suspected. They immediately shut everything down and gave me the phone numbers to all three credit bureaus to close the door on any further credit fraud. Generally, you’re only liable for the first $50 but American Express waived that. I cannot praise the people at American Express enough. They were absolutely fabulous to deal with and every person I spoke with was over the top with helpful suggestions and encouragement.

Did I mention that I had no idea what to do? Since it was a crime against me in another state, I called the FBI and asked what I should do. One of their Special Agents told me to file a complaint locally, so I went to my local police station and filed the complaint. Since I had moved several states away, the detective told me that things would move along better if I filed a complaint in the city where the crime occurred. Fortunately, I knew another detective in that city and I informed him that I would be pressing charges.

The detective opened an investigation, got the proper warrants, and then told me the purchases were for televisions, restaurants, movies, gasoline, and some Internet purchases. Needless to say, my anger level was rising. Since the first American Express account was shut down, this person applied for another one, then applied at Capital One, then at Advanta BankCorp. Fortunately, I had placed a security freeze on my credit account and no additional cards were issued. By applying for four different cards, the charges were growing.

After the investigation was completed, this person was arrested and later plead guilty to avoid jail time. I felt pretty comfortable with that because in the State of Alabama, a second offense is a mandatory 10 years in jail. I doubt this person will do it again, but I took one step to insure I’m not caught off guard again by signing up for Equifax Credit Monitoring Service. Yes, it is a continuing expense for me but it buys me peace of mind.

If you discover your identity has been stolen, here are some steps you should quickly take:

  • FIRST – Contact the three major credit bureaus and put a freeze on your credit account. I’ve included their links here because phone numbers change. Equifax, Transunion, and Experian are the “big three” credit bureaus. Each of them has a link for identity theft, but if you have any problems, email me and I’ll give you the phone numbers I called to put the security freeze on my credit record.
  • SECOND – File a complaint with your local police and with the police in the area the crime occurred if possible. This isn’t always feasible, but it is a good idea.
  • THIRD – File a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission by clicking this link. Write down your complaint reference number and keep it in a safe place.
  • FOURTH – Get a copy of your credit report. Go to annual credit report. Yes, it really IS free.
  • FIFTH – Call every credit issuer on your report and tell them what is happening. Be sure you go ahead and call those that were defrauded by the identity thief, too.
  • Get an accordion file. You’re going to need it.
  • Document everything. Write down the name and extension number of every single person you talk with, detectives, reps from the credit card company, everyone. No exceptions.
  • Mail all documents “certified, return receipt requested.” This way you have proof that you sent the documents and who signed for them.
  • Make copies of everything you send to anyone.
  • Decide if you will press charges. Depending on your personal situation, this can be a stressful time, especially if the criminal is a family member. Just remember, you did nothing wrong and you must rebuild your credit. In my case, the only way to get the 4 inquiries removed from my credit file was to have a guilty plea or conviction.
  • Be prepared for this to take a long time to clear up. Don’t give up though. You’ll get through it eventually.

Identity theft is a growing problem and it doesn’t show signs of letting up. Millions of people are affected every year. I was affected by someone applying for a credit card in my name, but credit card fraud makes up only 60% of identity theft. Checking accounts, savings accounts, phone service, Internet payment accounts, even medical insurance is subject to identity theft.

Other than credit monitoring services, what else can you do? I would suggest you follow the FTC’s suggestions. Summarizing their site,

  • DETER thieves by protecting your personal information and credit.
  • DETECT thieves by monitoring your accounts and credit. You can get one copy of your credit report FREE here.
  • DEFEND against thieves by taking appropriate actions if you suspect illegal activity on your credit file.

Conclusion: In my heart, I forgave the person who stole my identity. But actions have consequences and I did press charges. Identity theft is a class C felony in that state and this person got three years probation. I sincerely hope this never happens again. Getting my credit file back in order was a pain in the neck and I’ll pay for credit monitoring for who knows how long. Identity theft can haunt you for a long time. Take the necessary precautions now.

About the author

Ron Haynes has written 1000 articles on The Wisdom Journal.

The founder and editor of The Wisdom Journal in 2007, Ron has worked in banking, distribution, retail, and upper management for companies ranging in size from small startups to multi-billion dollar corporations. He graduated Suma Cum Laude from a top MBA program and currently is a Human Resources and Management consultant, helping companies know how employees will behave in varying situations and what motivates them to action, assisting firms in identifying top talent, and coaching managers and employees on how to better communicate and make the workplace MUCH more enjoyable. If you'd like help in these areas, contact Ron using the contact form at the top of this page or at 870-761-7881.

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Jeff@My Super-Charged Life

Ron, this is a great story! This is an issue that concerns me. I’ve been thinking lately about how to protect myself. I believe I have some identity theft converage as part of my homeowner’s insurance, but I’ve also been wondering about services like Anyone had any experiences with such services? Are they worth the money or not?


Thanks, Jeff.
I was very bitter for a long time, but I eventually got over it. I’ve heard very good things about LifeLock and I’ve considered switching to them, but I can pull my credit report every day if I want to with Equifax.

Hopefully it will never happen to you, but you still need to be cautious. I’d HIGHLY recommend reading the FTS’s web site. They have the best information.

Should you get some credit monitoring service? I’d have to say yes, but get some referrals and check out all your options first. Many times they have a step down plan that costs less but essentially performs the same function. Just ask.

Joshua Clanton - Design for the WEB

Thanks for the guide, Ron. I’ve never had to deal with identity theft, but it’s always good to be prepared.


Hey Joshua,
Thanks for the comment!
It IS a good idea to be prepared. I wish I had been.

PS: I have a link back to your site coming out in a post tomorrow. Thanks for posting all the great content on your blog :)


Ron: As you know, I’ve been through similar events. Your step-by-step approach should be incredibly useful to any first-time identity-theft victims. As you and I both know, though, it’s much better to do the things on the front end to try to prevent identify theft, because fixing it is always a battle.


Boy, you’re right about that!


Ron – have there been any long-lasting effects of having your identity stolen, besides having to request the credit reports?

You hear of many people being totally destroyed in financial terms.

Ryan McLean

Thanks for all of the tips, now I will know what to do if it ever happens to me

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