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The Secret We All Keep
Posted By Ron On November 30, 2012 @ 7:30 AM In Leadership,Life,Personal Development,Tips & Techniques | Comments Disabled
“Listen to me!”
Everyone silently screams those three words. Bosses to employees, employees to bosses, spouses to each other, parents to children, children to parents, voters to politicians, talk show hosts to their audience – the list is endless. We all crave to be heard and to be understood. We all just know that if the other person were to truly listen , he or she would surely understand our point of view. Sometimes it works, but most of the time it doesn’t, mostly because the other person has an entirely different frame of reference. They really DO see things differently than you.
Pastors are usually wonderful listeners, but unless you’re talking with a psychologist or life coach who’s paid $350/hour to listen  to you, that other person is usually too busy wanting YOU to listen  to him, just waiting for an opening to speak, and sometimes not waiting ! And it’s a shame, too. Listening , really listening  is always worth the effort since listening allows you to gain information, clarity and knowledge.
There are different types of listening:
That last type of listening is ACTIVE listening. It is the type of listening that seeks to understand and learn. Active listening admits that there is more information available. It realizes that there are more than two sides to any situation, potentially many more. You know when someone is actively listening to you.
Learning how to actively listen  requires patience and practice:
Listening is hard for me personally. I tend to have a lot of ideas that flow into my head all at once and many times I can’t keep them sorted until it’s my turn to speak. That’s where notes become really important for me.
What tips and techniques do you have for learning to be a better listener?
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