It can often feel good for the soul to think of others and especially your family and friends, but it’s also important to take the time to focus on what you want out of life and create a strategy that gives you the best chance of living your life on your own terms.
Here is a look at what it means to live life on your own terms and what things you have to consider and do to achieve that aim, including why it matters,
Living a life with purpose and having a plan
We are all uniquely individual which means that you might want something completely different out of life than someone else. This makes it difficult to qualify what living life on your own terms actually means in general.
Regardless of all our unique differences, the phrase is generally designed to describe how you achieve the aim of living a life that has meaning and purpose to you and feels fulfilling.
It can mean being able to enjoy quality time with the people that really matter to you in your life and you might also consider that leading a successful career and enjoying financial freedom are other key goals to aim for.
There are many people who are living lives and working in jobs that they don’t really and truly enjoy and that will mean that they are likely to feel unfulfilled.
Living life on your own terms matters because it can be the key to inner-happiness and it will often make you a better person as a parent, partner, and friend.
What really matters to you
If you have a nice house, a healthy family, and a luxury car on the drive, if these things make you happy and feel like you are living life on your own terms, that’s fine.
However, material possessions might not be making such a difference to your happiness as you might believe and if you sell your luxury car in order to get something less expensive and move to a smaller home, would these changes have an impact on who you really are?
It certainly doesn’t hurt to take a moment to reflect on what you have right now and what is actually important to you as a person.
If you have to work long hours to cover all the bills and pay for the expensive cars and holidays, you might wonder whether that means you are living life on your own terms.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself and enjoy the trappings of success, all you need to do is stop now and again and reflect on whether you feel like you have the sort of control over your life that you want.
It pays to plan
It is all too easy to drift along in life and before you know it you have reached a certain age without having managed to do some of the things that were on your list years ago.
Basically, if you don’t make a plan and map out what sort of things you want to do and achieve in your life and when you want to do them by, you are less likely to tick those particular boxes.
Try creating a plan that involves a series of short and long-term goals and objectives. This plan can serve as your blueprint for success and for getting things done, plus it can often feel far less daunting and easier to accomplish your goals when you break them down into smaller and more manageable targets.
Enjoy the process
It is all very well having a plan and a sense of purpose about where you are headed with your life but you don’t want to get yourself so stressed out about it that it has a negative impact on your enjoyment of life as it is now.
Even if what you are doing right now is not exactly making you happy, try to retain a positive outlook and enjoy the journey of trying to get where you want to be in your master plan for life.
Enjoy the process of trying to get to the point where you are living life on your own terms and remember that everything you do and feel starts and ends inside you.
This means that it is down to you and no one else when it comes to achieving the ultimate goal of living life on your own terms.
Kyle McLean took stock of his life after a health scare made him slow down and change his workaholic ways. He now writes motivational articles to inspire others to take life by the horns and live it how you want.